Spina Bifida - No Fault or Blame
Posted by Kristal Louie on Thu, Nov 19, 2009 @ 10:20 AM
Again and again I hear from mothers that they know that they are not at fault. However sometimes I sense a flash of doubt coming through as they wonder if they are at fault somehow. Even if you have heard it a thousand and one times from your best friend, your partner, or your doctor, sometimes you just need to hear it one more time. It wasn't your fault. You are not to blame. Nobody, especially you, should carry that heavy burden of blame.
Some women did not know to take folic acid 3 months prior to getting pregnant and they had a baby with spina bifida. Was that you? Even though you might not have known to take folic acid, it still doesn't make it your fault. You are not to blame. Some women were told to take folic acid 3 months prior to getting pregnant but they still had a baby with spina bifida. Was that you? Are you wondering if there was something else that you were supposed to do?
The bottom line is that regardless of what you did or did not do, you never wanted to harm your baby. That is the MOST important thing to remember. You must remember in those brief moments of self doubt when you start to wonder if you are at fault, at blame, that you DID NOT want to wish any harm. YOU are NOT at fault, NOT to blame. That burden is NOT for you to carry.
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